Psalm 133:1 (NLT)
How wonderful and pleasant it is when brothers live together in harmony!
God desires for all His children to dwell together in unity, harmony, and grace towards each other. Nothing hurts God’s heart more than to see His people quarreling, warring, and fighting with one another. As believers, God has called us to seek forgiveness, offer forgiveness, amend our relationships, and restore fellowship with other people.
In life, it is certain that we will face conflict of some kind at one point or another. Often when we face conflict, we tend to point to individuals as the source of the problem or attack someone’s personal character. However, this is not the way God wants us to handle conflict. The best way to handle conflict is to talk to God about it before you talk to people.
God is the ultimate problem-solver. He is the first and only source for really resolving problems amicably and gracefully. When we take our conflicts to God before we gossip about them over lunch, God does one of two things. He will either change your heart and mind about the situation or He will change the other person. And to change the other person, God doesn’t need our help.
All of your relationships will work out the way they should if you would just take time to pray and ask God to intervene. To dwell together in unity, we must intentionally look past human, surface, earthly mentalities and attitudes and look upward to God who never changes. Depending on people to work through problems alone will only leave you disappointed and hurt. Depending on God, however, will ensure you get the best resolution to your conflicts and ensure harmony and grace in the process.
“Often we want people to pray for us and help us, but we always defeat our object when we look too much to them and lean upon them. The true secret of union is for both to look upon God, and in the act of looking past themselves to Him they are unconsciously united.”
— A.B. Simpson